Negative Self-Talk Can Destroy Your Future
“I’ve never been good with money.”
“I hate budgets.”
“I’ll never be as good as she is”
“No one will ever buy this.”
If you’ve ever heard these statements come out of your mouth or even in your head, you’re engaging in a damaging habit known as negative self-talk. By telling yourself these lies (and yes, they are lies), you’re reinforcing the beliefs that accompany them.
What you visualise and believe is what becomes true.
Tell yourself that you’re not good with money and won’t be. Believe that budgets are horrible chores to be reviled, and you’ll resist creating one. Convince yourself that you can’t earn a six-figure income, and you won’t.
It’s not “the secret.” It’s a scientific fact. Known as a self-fulfilling prophecy, this kind of self-talk results in poor performance simply because we act as if it’s already true.
If you tell yourself that you’ll never be a six-figure earner, you will not do the things that 6-figure business owners do. You won’t work to grow your business (“No one reads my emails anyway”), you won’t increase your package prices (“It’s not like I’m some top-earning, highly sought-after professional”), and you won’t build a brand worthy of a six-figure income (“A beautiful brand isn’t necessary at this income level”).
By contrast, if you act and think as if you already are a six-figure earner, you’ll approach your business quite differently.
Your confidence level will increase. You’ll present a very different brand to your prospective clients. You’ll go out of your way to connect with those who can and will afford to pay your higher rates.
How to Combat Negative Self Talk
Self-Work:
The first step toward changing your negative self-talk is acknowledging that you do it. Tick a mental checkbox whenever you make negative statements, whether out loud or in your head.
Ask those around you to mention when they hear it. Ask them to do it like this: Mention it. Say you asked them to. Walk away. It’s important that you be left int hat moment to do the work. If they stay in front of you, they are asking you to do the work right then which may make you react protectively.
Make a note of the ones that come up most often for you, and identify their origin if you can. For example, if your ex-partner continually berated you for your spending habits, chances are your “I’m no good with money” mantra can be laid right at his or her feet. It’s time to turn that thinking around.
The next time you catch yourself saying, “I’m no good with money,” take a minute to recall five instances where you were good with money. Maybe you paid off your credit cards, saved for a house, or built an emergency fund. Rephrase your self-talk: "I used to be bad with money [if that’s true], but now I make smart choices to achieve my goals.”
Speak with Allison about what you’ve caught.
Work through it all using the Tools Allison will guide you through. They work- fast.
Just as negative self-talk becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, so does positive self-talk and using Tools for combating the voice in your head.
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